tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30570568.post5291978392279105576..comments2023-11-03T04:10:57.488-06:00Comments on Our Moments, Our Memories: To go or not to go?Jackie http://www.blogger.com/profile/06689420082726915164noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30570568.post-78308509966144971062008-07-30T21:04:00.000-06:002008-07-30T21:04:00.000-06:00I think this is a phase we all have. When my first...I think this is a phase we all have. When my first was about a year I had invites to one of these every weekend night--I think it's the fairly new SAHM who feels the need to help $$$$. Now that my oldest is ten, us SAHMs aren't into helping $$$ and just want to get through the day :)<BR/><BR/>But that's off the point. I am sure the real reason you were invited was because you are her friend and she wants you to see her lovely home. I am betting she could care less if you buy anything. If you are really close just mention you are strapped due to gas, electric, food bills and maybe another time. if you aren't very close, just say you just bought a bunch of new kitchen stuff and don't need anything.Miss Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15430066224876012848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30570568.post-2756670471036628812008-07-30T20:45:00.000-06:002008-07-30T20:45:00.000-06:00I'm not sure what the proper response is, but if I...I'm not sure what the proper response is, but if I know I'm not going to buy anything, I usually just don't go.Michelle@Life with Threehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02770928322306445408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30570568.post-42265968443730240162008-07-30T19:04:00.000-06:002008-07-30T19:04:00.000-06:00Don't go if you don't want to. But if you do, just...Don't go if you don't want to. But if you do, just tell the friend you won't be able to buy anything. Honesty is always the best policy.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12140251369331552673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30570568.post-10482587735516275352008-07-30T13:09:00.000-06:002008-07-30T13:09:00.000-06:00I had to chime in on this! I love going to these p...I had to chime in on this! I love going to these parties, but we are on a very tight budget right now. I went to a Southern Living at HOme party, where nothing is cheap, but it was at my daughters best friends mothers house (got that?) and I felt obligated to buy. So I bought the least expensive thing (plus shipping) and it was about $17.00. I turned around and sold it new in the box for $12.00. So I "paid" about $5 to go to the party and I don't have to clutter up my home with more junk. This is either smart or sad, I'm not sure, but you can try this!Boomeyershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01158472393339431997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30570568.post-90880427437789004222008-07-30T11:01:00.000-06:002008-07-30T11:01:00.000-06:00Well, I would probably not go, but then again, I *...Well, I would probably not go, but then again, I *am* anti-social. lol.Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12933591575776144343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30570568.post-86444602369882847172008-07-30T08:19:00.000-06:002008-07-30T08:19:00.000-06:00I love the social aspect of the parties, but not t...I love the social aspect of the parties, but not the pressure to purchase...Mrs.Naz@BecomingMehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05425021902893463197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30570568.post-10387427644777826842008-07-30T08:06:00.000-06:002008-07-30T08:06:00.000-06:00I loved reading your responses to this post! I ma...I loved reading your responses to this post! <BR/><BR/>I made it my policy <I>years</I> ago to not host parties. However, I get invited to them <I>all</I> the time. If I know I can't or don't want to buy anything, I usually decline the invitation. Mainly, because I don't trust myself under pressure. I always end up feeling so guilty that I end up buying stuff I shouldn't. <BR/><BR/>But...a few weeks ago, I went to a Silpada party knowing that I wasn't going to buy anything. I told my friend up front that I couldn't, and I slipped out quietly while the consultant was busy with someone else.mer@lifeat7000feethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07169865790593225070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30570568.post-48037012202260603882008-07-29T20:37:00.000-06:002008-07-29T20:37:00.000-06:00Why are all of these parties so expensive anymore?...Why are all of these parties so expensive anymore? It really seems out of control! I had a jewelry party last November(my first party ever) and I was surprised by the number of women who came but didn't buy anything. Not that I cared but I have always bought at their parties because I thought it was expected. So I got to thinking of all the $$ I could have been saving.<BR/>I loved visiting with everyone though so it was all good but I am NEVER having a "come and buy something" party again!!Kelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06726306325680033645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30570568.post-56725846877936553162008-07-29T20:02:00.000-06:002008-07-29T20:02:00.000-06:00I love certain types of parties. I love Tupperwar...I love certain types of parties. I love Tupperware...it is a sickness really. And I love Home Interiors too. <BR/><BR/>I would let them know that you do not have the budget for it right now. She might still want you to come anyway. I always let people know if it just isn't in the cards right now, and they still want me to come and socialize.The Fritz Factshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162992338469733361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30570568.post-35543997832195592292008-07-29T19:42:00.000-06:002008-07-29T19:42:00.000-06:00I am in agreement with the ladies here - just tell...I am in agreement with the ladies here - just tell your friend the truth, then go to the party and have a nice time.<BR/>She'll be glad you came!Karen Hossinkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18049412644792482270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30570568.post-71617966471040457252008-07-29T16:27:00.000-06:002008-07-29T16:27:00.000-06:00Girl....... I do NOT like those parties for the re...Girl....... I do NOT like those parties for the reason you stated so well. ( I would probably side with your sister.)..Like you I am fond of pampered chef but going to a party is not worth it. I love parties with no attachments though:) <BR/>Tell your friend honestly it is not in the budget at the moment and you will have to decline....I think you would feel "funny" once you got there and didn't get anything....I have :(Jules from "The Roost"https://www.blogger.com/profile/12753550240390593911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30570568.post-41070186299823414622008-07-29T16:08:00.000-06:002008-07-29T16:08:00.000-06:00I usually don't go. I would go only if I wanted t...I usually don't go. I would go only if I wanted to buy something. Otherwise, I fear the temptation would prove too great and I'd come home having spent money I shouldn't have spent. But, you're right, it's a tough call.Lizz @ Yes, and So is My Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15812794591947746384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30570568.post-67125296742199554382008-07-29T13:56:00.000-06:002008-07-29T13:56:00.000-06:00I say you should go too. It will be nice to hang ...I say you should go too. It will be nice to hang out with some grown ups. The Pampered Chef parties usually have some good recipes too. Just tell your friend where you stand at the moment and if she's a good friend, then she'll understand. We've all been there.<BR/><BR/>Good topic btw. Interesting to see how everybody feels. I've always avoided hosting a party like that because I don't want to burden people with the invite. Now I see that it's for good reason!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30570568.post-48327839664774979792008-07-29T13:39:00.000-06:002008-07-29T13:39:00.000-06:00Funny that you should post about this. Because ton...Funny that you should post about this. Because tonight I am invited to a pampered chef party....and although I love their stuff I know I am not going to make a purchase today. I am usually upfront with my friends if I know that I won't be making a purchase,if its where I can I may book a show to help them out. Tonight however I am not able to make it at all so I probably won't book a show either. I've had friends call me in the past for shows I am hosting and tell me they are on a spending freeze but they want to come for the "grown up fun time" and I always just say come! I would just be upfront....and go have fun!Mamajilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08641433887080390355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30570568.post-72021416911245808442008-07-29T13:38:00.000-06:002008-07-29T13:38:00.000-06:00I love to go to these parties, because I get to ge...I love to go to these parties, because I get to get out of the house and spend time with friends (i.e. adults, LOL!). But I know what you mean about feeling obligated. I'd still go to your friend's party, because a good turnout is a moral booster too.Gennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05977090214116084952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30570568.post-34457887064759882702008-07-29T13:24:00.000-06:002008-07-29T13:24:00.000-06:00this is hard...and i completely understand. we do...this is hard...and i completely understand. we don't have money in the budget for these parties...so i am always upfront right from the beginning, letting my friend who is hosting know that i would love to attend to hang out but that i won't be able to purchase anything. my hostess friends are typically gracious and glad i will at least be a "warm body" at the party since it can sometimes be hard to get enough rsvps!Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05057997192222912332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30570568.post-24303046526917775602008-07-29T12:00:00.000-06:002008-07-29T12:00:00.000-06:00p.s. you're mom is too cute!p.s. you're mom is too cute!Carolina Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07875194881183827575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30570568.post-66874769710179904922008-07-29T11:59:00.000-06:002008-07-29T11:59:00.000-06:00Honesty is the best policy. ;) Sometimes they are ...Honesty is the best policy. ;) Sometimes they are happy just to have you attend. ;) Like the time I got talked into hosting and my girlfriends came for me. Even if they didn't buy - I was thrilled.Carolina Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07875194881183827575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30570568.post-16411194046909343062008-07-29T11:30:00.000-06:002008-07-29T11:30:00.000-06:00Oy, I have posted on this topic, too because direc...Oy, I have posted on this topic, too because direct sales parties do tend to put friendships in a different position. I always refuse to host a party because of the lack of RSVPs and the pressure I'll feel to help out my salesperson-friend. And then...I cave and host one! Ack. NO will power.<BR/><BR/>There are no easy answers when you want to be supportive of folks in this business, whether as hostesses or the sales people themselves. I know each case is different; however, i'm with the folks of the opinion that you should go and have fun. If this is a close friend, and you feel like you can be upfront about your finances, great, but if not, it IS a party. There really IS no pressure to buy, other than that which we place on ourselves. <BR/><BR/>Tough question. Excellent post.Gretchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02576409086020993015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30570568.post-50032645215634552682008-07-29T09:14:00.000-06:002008-07-29T09:14:00.000-06:00Mom fixed the problem! I love when moms do that!Mom fixed the problem! I love when moms do that!Sarah@Life in the Parsonagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03129742817309651806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30570568.post-24091859361937908222008-07-29T08:38:00.000-06:002008-07-29T08:38:00.000-06:00If you really want to go and don't want to purchas...If you really want to go and don't want to purchase anything, give me a call because I really want a garlic press. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30570568.post-81641079443426412852008-07-29T08:18:00.000-06:002008-07-29T08:18:00.000-06:00If I can't buy I tell my friend right up front. A...If I can't buy I tell my friend right up front. And personally, when I host these types of parties, I never ever want my friends/family to feel pressured into buying something to "help me out" when I know it's going to hurt them financially. If you know them, tell them. They're your friends and they'll understand. :) <BR/>And I'm with Chel - I think she'll just be happy that you showed up! More people makes for more fun - and hey, it's face to face time with your friends! :)Jodie | Velourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05934490293293685281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30570568.post-68303963157431147942008-07-29T08:13:00.000-06:002008-07-29T08:13:00.000-06:00I would go and have fun with your friends. I have...I would go and have fun with your friends. I have hosted a few of the parties in the past, and I never felt like my friends owed we an explanation for their purchases, or lack thereof!SarahHubhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11906484079798081988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30570568.post-7484005212524162472008-07-29T07:52:00.000-06:002008-07-29T07:52:00.000-06:00Usually I try to avoid these parties. The stuff is...Usually I try to avoid these parties. The stuff is usually nice, but too expensive and I feel obligated to buy stuff that I don't even want or need.Traceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11064113501129840818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30570568.post-10267406815829094822008-07-29T07:48:00.000-06:002008-07-29T07:48:00.000-06:00I am one who loves going to these parties, but onl...I am one who loves going to these parties, but only a select few, Home and garden, stampin up, and pampered chef. if you are up front your friend she would rather have you come then to not enjoy at all. I have parties and would rather my friend come and not buy anything than to stay at home.Grace Acres https://www.blogger.com/profile/06934141772986475687noreply@blogger.com